Adults pretend to be ‘fine’ rather than admitting to having mental health problems



A study of 2,000 adults found that nearly four in ten adults fear that the person asking the question is only having small discussions and not really wanting to hear about a mental health problem.

A quarter is too embarrassed to open up and give a more honest answer while 17 percent fear the other person will like them less if they do.

And a fifth worries that it might make the other person regret not asking the question.

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Talk about your well-being

The research was commissioned by Santander to encourage people to talk about their well-being after it appeared 66% had mental health issues due to money issues.

And with the UK’s leave program on the verge of ending, there are concerns that people will continue to suffer, including workers on leave who could now be made redundant.

As a result of this – and the large number of adults who have struggled with their finances – the bank has partnered with the mental health charity MIND to provide training for Santander staff. and tips to help them have “the right conversations” with clients with mental health challenges.

Josie Clapham, Director of Financial Support at Santander, said: “A lot of us don’t want to ‘burden’ others with how we feel, or fear being judged or seen differently if we’re honest about it. ‘a mental problem, struggle for health.

“We know that money worries can often be the root of mental health problems and for some people the challenges of the past eighteen months are not over.

“We want customers to know that if they need to talk to us, we’re ready to support them with a sympathetic, non-judgmental ear and practical solutions for their finances. “

Are you OK?

The study also found when asked the question “Are you okay?” »People were three times more likely to report a physical difficulty they had experienced than a mental health difficulty.

But the reality is, 69% want to hear an honest answer when they ask someone if they’re okay.

And 79% would even ask again if they felt like they were not hearing the truth.

The study found that after asking if someone was okay, 43% would feel “glad they asked” if they were given an honest answer about how the other person was really feeling.

Another 45 percent would be happy to have felt they could be open while 36 percent would feel humbled for having confided in them.

Conducted via OnePoll, the study found that half of adults would make a conscious effort to check in with someone more frequently if they knew they had mental health issues.

Would not admit it to their partner

It also appeared that more than half (52 percent) would not admit that they don’t feel good with a partner, while 53 percent would also hide their true feelings from close friends.

However, in the wake of the coronavirus pandemic, 59% of those polled are now more likely to honestly answer a question about whether they were okay – if they weren’t.

Despite this, nearly a fifth of adults (18%) find it difficult to talk about their most intimate feelings, even with those close to them.

Emma Mamo, Head of Workplace Wellbeing at MIND, said: “We know there is a strong link between money and mental health – and for some, the pandemic and the economic downturn have hit both, harshly, with an impact likely to be felt. long to come.

“This research shows that people still struggle to talk about their mental health, but we need to keep having these important conversations.

“There are a lot of people who are willing to listen without being judgmental and help us if necessary.

“Mind is delighted to be providing training in Santander to help with the well-being and mental health of their colleagues and clients.

“If you need information and support regarding your money, your sanity, or both, visit”


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